By: Soraya Herbert
Women, especially young women, can be really vindictive.
When you stand there looking at the people you considered your friends, but everyone just stares at you. When you try to voice your side, you take one step forward, they take two steps back.
You meet a variety of people throughout your life and some stay and some go. One thing I have come to learn over the years to take every new friendship with a grain of salt. When in a disagreement between women, they will sneakily sabotage their ‘frenemies’. And while we attempt to sabotage them, we will appear is if everything is, “peachy-keen”, well-meaning and well-behaved, so as not to besmirch the clean reputation we have built.
What do you do, when your friends turn on you? What do you do when your name is being slandered and no one will listen to your side of the story?
Because there is no worse feeling than when you feeling like the heartbreak of standing alone among friends.
Whether you are religious or not, there is so much you can take away from scripture. The responses to the negativity and slander that Jesus endured can give you guidance on how to deal when your friends are not the people you thought they were.
Mark 14:60-61
60The high priest stood up in the council and asked Jesus, “Why don’t you say something in your own defense? Don’t you hear the charges they are making against you?” 61 But Jesus kept quiet and did not say a word. The high priest asked him another question, “Are you the Messiah, the Son of the glorious God?”
After your friends have betrayed you, trying to defend yourself defend yourself almost always creates more problems. All the back and forth conversations that transform into aggressive arguments and interpretations of what happened and why.
When in these moments of hurt the strongest witness to your character is your actions. It’s how you respond to the situation that speaks volumes.
When the negativity keeps coming at you, and you feel like you’re drowning. Remember that:
Mark 10:27
27 With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.
Don’t feed into the aggression, if your so called friends want to turn on you and slander you, let them. Because you know the truth about yourself and maybe it is a sign for you to get rid of these toxic people from your life.
When you feel that you are standing alone, remember to follow your purpose in life. No one knows it as well as you, so find the courage to dig deep within yourself and do what you were made to do.
Who we are should not be defined by the approval of others. Who we are should be defined by our commitment to our purpose in life. Remember this when you stand alone.
God knows what is going to happen in your life before you were even thought about. He wouldn’t put you through this if he didn’t believe that you could handle it.
Always stay strong in your faith and in what you believe in. Don’t let anyone take charge of your life or make you seem less than because you are a child of God and are worth so much more than you know.
P.S. In this society women shouldn’t be tearing one another down, by using derogatory names and being malignant. We as women should be empowering one another.
xoxo,